“Oh, what a bitter thing it is to look into happiness through another man’s eyes.”- William Shakespeare
Jealousy is one of the biggest enemies most people have not conquered. It’s often one of the causes of personal, ministry and relationship failure.
“Jealousy is an emotion; the term generally refers to the thoughts or feelings of insecurity, fear, concern, and envy over relative lack of possessions, status or something of great personal value, particularly in reference to a comparator”
It’s a character enemy that must be dealt with in everyone’s life. It has ruined many marriages, organizations, ministries, and brought war to many nations. But the most tragic aspects of its effect is the damage it performs in those who allow its seed to grow.
One example of someone who ruined himself by this attitude was king Saul. When he ought to retrace his steps back to God, his heart became infected with jealous against a teenager David that God began to use to continue where he failed as a leader.
“So from that time on Saul kept a jealous eye on David” – 1 Samuel 18:9NLT
I’ll like to share six dangers of a jealous attitude that ruined Saul which those who overcome this attitude will definitely escape.
1. Emotional Imbalance
One of the dangers of a jealous attitude is emotional imbalance. Whenever you see people who are jealous of another, they pick anger against the person they are jealous of incessantly. The Bible says, Saul was very angry at David when the women began to sing his praises (Vs 8). He could not manage his emotion anymore. He became so furious as they sang of the exploits of David.
How is your emotion like whenever they praise your spouse, friend, colleague at work, subordinate or your boss. Do you begin to burn inside and become emotionally imbalanced immediately? You have to deal with that attitude immediately.
2. Sense of Insecurity
Jealousy deepens the heart hole of insecurity. Whenever there seems to be a thought that you will soon lose your relevance, thinking that someone is doing what you ought to be doing which begins to lead to hatred and loss of personal peace are red lights of insecurity.
Learn to always celebrate the wins of others and be grateful for what God is doing in your life. That’s the way to maintain a positive attitude void of jealousy.
Insecure people always keep a jealous watch on other people’s accomplishments without appreciating theirs.
King Saul said, “They credit David with ten thousands and me with only thousands. Next they will be making him their king” (Vs 8b).
3. Loss of Right Focus
You cannot maintain a right focus fixing gaze on the accomplishments of others around you.
Jealousy is sign focus in a wrong direction.
Those who are consumed with negative thoughts about the progress of others cannot make personal progress in their own lives.
The exploits of others should challenge you to get focused on your God-given assignment not the other way around.
When king Saul began to keep a jealous eye on David (see Vs 9), he never made any personal progress again.
4. Evil Thoughts and Actions
Thoughts are the mothers of actions. Jealous attitude left unchecked will soon become pregnant with evil thoughts capable of birthing evil actions.
The Bible says, the very next day Saul began to keep a jealous eye on David, a tormenting spirit from God overwhelmed him and he began to rave like a madman.
But while David was playing music to soothe and relief his boss of the erratic madness, Saul suddenly threw an arrow targeted at killing David (see Vs 10-11).
Jealousy is the key that opens a door to evil thoughts which eventually leads to evil actions.
5. Unwarranted Dismissal or Demotion of a Subordinate
When Saul discovered that David escaped his murder attempts, he finally banned him from his presence and demoted him to the rank of captain. But the controversy put David more than ever in the public eye (Vs 13TLB).
6. Loss of God’s Presence and Untimely Death
I discovered something that frightens me about this jealous attitude from the life of Saul. And this seems to be the most dangerous aspects of all that I have shared.
Here is it: Jealousy or envy is rooted in the life where the presence of God has departed.
The Bible says, “Saul was afraid of David and jealous because the Lord had left him and was now with David (Vs 12). In other words, there wouldn’t have been any reason to develop a jealous attitude that finally led to self destruct for Saul if he had retained God’s presence in his life.
So the way to be unaffected by this attitude is to ensure we did not lose the presence of God in our lives. But once we perceive jealous in our heart, we must quickly examine ourselves to see where we have missed it and then quickly return back to the Lord for help.
Meanwhile, “Never hate people who are jealous of you, but pray for them and be careful of them. They are people who think that you are better than them.” For instance, David in spite of the persecutions from his jealous boss continued to succeed in everything he undertook, for the Lord was with him (1 Samuel 18:14).
May you continue to Succeed!