“Though good advice lies deep within a person’s heart, the wise will draw it out” – Proverbs 20:5
“Some people never take advice from anybody; others take advice from everybody.”
Our life is the sum total of the quality advice we have benefited from others. Access to good advice goes a long way to determine how best our lives will turn out.
Most times, no amount of money offered can quantify the immense benefits of a good advice. I always tell those who are close to me that benefiting from good advice from others requires an understanding of how to go about it. You may have right people in your life and yet not know how to draw out of them the counsels that will impact your life.
I told one of my proteges recently that who you listen to determines who will listen to you later. Advice can ruin and advice can make a destiny. According to Proverbs 20:18NLT, “Plans succeed through good counsel; don’t go to war without the advice of others.”
In the hearts of some people lies the answers to some questions bothering your life. But wisdom is needed to draw them out.
During the government of King David, God positioned Ahithophel in his life to give him good advice when needed. In fact, the Bible says the counsel of Ahithophel which he counseled in those days was as if a man had enquired at the oracle of God (2 Samuel 16:23).
David listened to advice from Ahithophel until the man betrayed David. It was then David prayed that God would turn the counsel of Ahithophel to foolishness (2 Samuel 15:31).
God usually put people in our lives to give us good advice. We must learn how to harness the privilege to accomplish the purpose and plan of God for us. But to harness this power requires wisdom. I will share four wisdom requirements of getting good advice from people God has positioned in our lives.
1. Be Humble
To draw out good advice from people God has positioned in your life requires humility on your part. You may be a leader, but it takes humility to learn from your subordinates. Leaders must never be too big to bend down for good advice. Through humility, you can wisely draw out counsel from good people around you.
2. Acknowledge People’s Strengths
Another word for humility is knowing and staying within your boundary. Pride in other word is simply crossing your boundary. When you learn to always stay within your boundary – knowing where you are weak by acknowledging where others are strong, you will be able to draw out good advice from others.
3. Be Generous
I have practiced this principle and it has always worked for me. Generosity always touch the hearts of people to give good advice. Stingy spirit can never get the best of others. The more generous you are, the greater your access to get the best of right people in your life. When you are kind to people, you stand a better advantage of benefiting from their good counsels.
4. Be Implemental
Good advice is useless except it is implemented. When your counselors know you as an implementer, they are encouraged to pour their hearts to you. Good people in your life won’t like wasting their precious time if they discover you are going to discard their counsels eventually. So to draw good advice from others – Be humble, acknowledge people’s strengths, be generous and be an implementer.